What to expect in a Group Event ?
Curious, well that's the best first step!
Thinking about going to a sex party for the first time? I'm honoured my events caught your attention! I love planning events and bringing people together! I could say it's one of my vocations. There's nothing that brings me more joy than watching people meet, bond and share passionate chemistry.
Nervous? You’re not alone. We welcome the unexpected, the awkward, the confident, and the cautious. Whether you're watching, flirting, or diving in — you're valid here.
Here are some little tips, tricks, advice and testimonials to guide you through your first time nerves!
Consent is everything.
It's the law. Consent have to be given enthusiastically. Consent is an ongoing thing. Consent must be honoured and sought for.
Setting / Venue
I always try to find a space that has a great common room with some rooms that have multiple beds. There are always spaces for wild adventures to unfold and more calmer spaces for people that want a bit more intimacy. The tickets in my events include Food, Snacks ( When booking, you will be asked about your allergies), Water bottles galore. There is always a designated "bar" area. The alcohol is also included in your ticket; we try to keep a pretty full bar of basic drinks, wine, bubbly and more. There is also staff present ( THAT DO NOT PLAY) that are there to maintain cleanliness and safety. We affectionately call them the Mommy's of the party.
Alcohol and Drugs
While all alcohol is included in your tickets and a few drinks to loosen up are expected, You are absolutely not welcome to get wasted. Any abuse of alcohol that would make you unable to consent, others around you to feel safe will result in you being sent home in an uber and a ban on my events. In terms of drugs, i do not recommend taking any during the party, you are a responsible adult and free to do as you wish. My only rule is that if you do any drugs, supervisors must be told EXACTLY what you are on, so if anything happens, we can act upon it/ reverse the effects. This isn't a place to get stupid. Limit your intake, Stay present in the moment. Don't forget to bring a little Tip for Arté our bartender!
* Additional Q & A : Can i Bring my own bottle. Yes of course, if you want to drink something specific, please do bring it. We just ask that all bottles are still scealed at arrival. Please let us also know if it's just for you or if you wanted to share it with others.
Safe Sex
Tickets include all protections. We have all sizes of condoms, latex, no latex, insertive, name it. We also provide mouth wash and all BDSM toys/ surfaces and cleaned between plays. Lubes, gloves, anything to help you make sex safer is provided. Protected Penetrative Sex is mandatory. Some providers provide BBBJ some prefer CBJ, it's to their discretion. Some like fingers, some prefer fingers in gloves, some no fingers at all. It's required to wash your hands and rince your genitals between play partners. As responsible adults, we make sure to keep our sexual health TOP NOTCH, but it is also YOUR responsibility to get checked regularly and especially after group events. If anything happens/ happened, please notify me, as a point of contact, so i can communicate with all providers and clients to get checked and medicated before we make a town spread by accident. Sexual health is important, if things happen, it's important to keep each other informed and responsible. There is no shame.
Manners
We have a 0 tolerance policy for unsolicited touch. You ask before touching, before joining a scene. No is a complete sentence. Rejection isn't personal, everyone is navigating different intensities and sometimes someone just needs a little break between play times. Make sure to check-in during play times if your provider needs a little break. Please don't hog providers, there are so many people to have fun and experience with.
Things to bring
Your sense of adventure and curiosity
Your outfit if there's a specific theme
slippers / flip flops / inside shoes that are comfy to go around in
Vetting / Screening
Screening is Mandatory. Your options include References ( preferred) and Pic of ID. We select participants that make us feel safe.
Other People you might find on location
Depending on the event and edition, i try to include some friends from different sides of sex work into the events!
* Massage therapists / Sexy massages
* Performers ( Burlesque, contortionists, Pole athletes)
* Dominatrix
Common Misconceptions
No. You don't have to fuck everyone present. You might fool around with 1-2 people or 5-6 but i haven't seen anyone be able to play with EVERYONE present.
You're not expected to participate in anything you don't want to. You are welcome to be curious and try new things.
All speeds of curiosity are valid.
Recommendations
Be chill, Relax, Be in the present moment!
Practice Chill conversation openers ( a joke, a question, a fantasy, your enjoyment, etc)
Make your own Party Ritual Mantra : "I'm allowed to be curious and try new things. I'm welcome and i'm allowed to explore my sexuality."
Limit booze to stay in the present moment.
It's ok to just watch and touch yourself too.
Coming as a Couple ?
Attending a sex-positive event as a couple can be an exciting way to explore trust, communication, and shared curiosity — but it’s also totally normal to feel a mix of nerves and questions beforehand. These events aren’t about “performing” or impressing others — they’re about moving at your own pace, together. Some couples come just to observe and soak up the atmosphere; others enjoy flirting or connecting with others, while many simply find it heightens intimacy between them. The key is to talk openly before and during the event — about boundaries, comfort zones, and any “maybe” areas — and to check in with each other often. You don’t need to have all the answers going in. Just showing up with mutual respect and a sense of adventure is a powerful starting point.
Frequently Asked Questions
1. What if i get nervous and can't perform?
We are humans, sometimes the body doesn't want to body like we want it to. It's normal. We always include social time to give enough time to break the ice and create some nice sexual tension in the air. These parties are about curiosity, connection and we don't want you to pressure yourself with performance. Focus on pleasure in it's many forms. As much as everything around is super exciting, this isn't a porn script.
2. What if people don't find me attractive?
But what if they do. What if we aren't attracted to stereotypical, conventional "hotness". My friends and colleagues are incredibly inclusive. What is an orgy if not the celebration of diversity in all it's shapes, forms, ages, heritages, abilities... We care about consent, manners, good hygiene. No one is left alone. We will all be all over you.
3. What if i see someone i know?
It would be extremely rare, but it can happen. Discretion is sacred. If you run into someone you know, Mutual Respect, Privacy, Discretion are the LAW. For both parties.
4. Does the theme apply to the providers only, or to the clients as well?
Ideally it applies to everyone, the goal isn't to become the worlds next cosplay/ costume master. But any effort towards the theme really elevates the experience! If you don't have a costume, i always add something easier to access, like a colour palette.
5. Is the Fee Listed the Final Fee, or do i have to pay an additional rate to play with providers?
The Rate advertised includes everything and everyone. You don't need to shed any extra pennies then the ticket price to play with everyone. It's important to me that all providers are paid equally, providers that are there will detail you their services at the agreed rate. We don't accept "upsells" "extras" during the events. If providers choose to do more, it's because they want to in that specific moment. If you want to explore your connection further, you are welcome to meet them in another private setting. You are welcome to tip the bartender tho!
6. Why go to a professional orgy and not just to a swingers club?
First of all, this is a professional setting, the providers are vetted and safe. As sex workers, we have experience in making you feel comfortable, welcome and inclusivity is the center of our values. This is a "hired" setting which also becomes a success by the providers active participation. You will never be in a corner alone (unless you choose to because you need a break). You get to have adventures with all facets of diversity in the pond of beauties we select for each edition. You also get to meet multiple providers at once, (some that come from across Canada that don't usually tour here). You get to witness their chemistry and participate in beautiful authentic moments. As Sex workers, our sexuality is also our livelihood, it's precious and cared for. We get tested often, we check back with you if anything happened. We value privacy and respect your personal life. We won't cross any boundaries regarding your personal life situation and our discretion is assured the second we exit the venue. Swingers Clubs are amazing, I am myself a huge fan, but they do cater mostly to couples and their focus is on creating a space for things to happen but not necessarily having everyone participate. It can often be groups of friends or play partners that meet to play and want their own bubble. It's like going to any Club but with sex involved.
7. I'm Bi-curious or interested in trying things with Men as well? Is it a good place to try things?
Absolutely. We are very open and EXCITED to have bi clients with us. There are always a few bi-clients in the crowd. During Social time, before the play time begins, we always talk about boundaries and if you have specific fantasies for the event : that's your time to shine! Let others know you are open to exploration and listen to others expressing the same. I also host some smaller BI-ONLY events to make sure we are in a safe space to explore in the group setting is too intimidating.
Testimonials from Clients :
“I was honestly shaking when I walked in. I kept thinking, ‘What am I doing here? Everyone’s going to be hotter, more confident, more experienced.’ But right away Arté offered me a drink and said, ‘You’re good — everyone’s been new once.’ No one was pretending to be perfect. I ended up having the best conversations and incredible sex adventures. It felt like people wanted me there, not like I was intruding.” - E.C.
“I assumed I’d be kind of invisible — that people would stick to their groups or just ignore me. But from the start, people came up to chat, introduced themselves, asked if I needed anything. I expected it to be wild from beginning to end, but it was actually beautiful in all intensities. It didn’t feel cliquey or cold. It felt human. Warm. Playful." - M.
“I almost didn’t go. I sat in my car for 20 minutes debating. But the second I walked in, April jumped in my arms and said, ‘You made it!’ That tiny moment completely changed how I felt. I end up playing that night, after an hour of struggling with my nerves. I felt safe, accepted, and honestly I'm proud of myself.” -JP
"My partner and I were curious but nervous it would be too intense. Turns out, there was no pressure at all. We watched, held hands during play time, and left feeling closer than ever. It was a beautiful introduction to group sex and we can't wait to attend more." - Sophie & Antoine
“The funniest part? I was most nervous about being ignored. I ended up with a line of providers wanting to kiss me after a group game. Literal, actual queue. I still blush thinking about it.” - Paul
Testimonials from Providers :
"My First Orgy of April's that I attended was The Star Wars Orgy. My favourite part (that kept me coming back), was the complete openness in communicating what consent looks like, sharing boundaries as a group, meeting other providers that I would have never otherwise met, BUT MOST OF ALL, was everyone's dedication to the theme (Even during the sex!)." - Effie Turner
"My favourite parts were Effie drenching me with squirt within 5 mins of playing together. Winning the deep-throat contest AGAIN. Twerking on the spanking bench while 2 providers were spanking me and singing "big booty bitches" - Julia Sky
"I love watching the different scenes happening all in the same bed, some people are cuddling with TLC while others are going wild right next to them" - Charlotte Duval
"My favourite moment was when i got tied to the floor (by Liya) and someone bent down to facefuck me while providers pleasured me, IT WAS HOT. I loved how everyone watched too." - Ella B.
PODCAST
I was invited on Lady Pims podcast to talk about Parties. You can listen to me talk about them here!
You are welcome here, you are allowed to be curious, you are allowed to be aroused, excited, quiet, awkward, extravagant, what ever you want to feel.
If you have more questions, recommendations of things to add to this post, please feel free to send me a message!
Love you plenty!
April Killian
PROVIDERS QUESTIONS AREA
How can i apply to be part of your events?
I make some call outs on social medias a few times a year. I keep a very, overly detailed list of all providers interested and how often they have participated to make sure we dont repeat the same people too often and give chances to new faces. I'm also always welcome to have touring providers come join as well (i have an incall i can share, etc if needed during your stay). If you catch my events in between callouts for applications, just send me an introduction email, a bit a bout you, if you have experience or not, your website and socials so i can easily add them to ads in the future.
How does the pay work ?
All providers are paid the same rate for their participation. It is very important to me. You are welcome to provide services and have fun in the agreed rate. You can choose to do BBBJ or CBJ, i will not push the boundaries of safety that you chose for yourself. You are welcome to do more if you want, but it has to be because you want to. I don't accept to hussle clients during the play time for extras. If you and a client want to take it further, you are welcome to book another play time. You will receive your envelope with your pay at the beginning of the event and have time to count and put it away before rejoining the group. The rate is usually around what the pay of a dinner date would be.
What if i don't like a certain client?
If something bad happened, signal me, signal a supervisor and we will act immediately. If its a vibe thing, you are not obligated to play with them. Clients are hammered before arrival and on arrival about boundaries, and to not take rejections personally. It can happen that you don't want to play with that one person. There are so many other people in the room to have fun with. Clients are also vetted by me before and i work very hard to not have people in our space that make us feel uncomfortable.
Food restrictions?
The snacks and meals provided are always without Sea Food, Fish and Nuts. If you have more specific diet restrictions, i will do my best to accommodate them. You are also welcome to bring your own snacks as long as they aren't in the 3 listed categories to make sure most common allergies are covered.
What is expected of me / What should i show up with ?
Your curiosity, your interest for adventure and your professionalism. The parties are more GFE foccused and can have some BDSM play areas that you are more then welcome to play in! All protections are provided. If there is a theme, you are welcome to have fun with the theme and wear a costume. If you don't have a costume, don't want to get one, i always add some more vast ideas like colours. You are expected to have a sexual health hygiene and habits. The day of the event, you are required to arrive 1h before the start time at the venue to ensure we are all ready on time. It also gives us time to talk and chat before the event, discuss our boundaries between each other and even take some photos together. You are also expected to stay 30 mins after the event for the after party debrief in which we insure that everyone felt safe and had a good time. If you want to bring toys, you are welcome to. We always have many all around to play with but i understand if you have favourites or just want to play with your own! If you lost anything, i have a Party lost and found bin that i bring to each event. You are welcome to come around my incall and recuperate your lost items.
What does the rest of the Tickets Money go towards?
I made sure my events operate on a NET 0 Profit basis. I plan these for fun, to create safe spaces but i'm not here to make profit over anyone. The other fees of the tickets include : rental of the space, all the pharmacy supplies, catering, alcohol, food, snacks, specific toys, supervisors and barmaid salaries, cleaning supplies, decor for specific themes, rentals of different props for certain themes, a cook for the summer edition. Any extra budget is used on gift bags for the providers OR put into the next event if it's under 200$ left. For example, the unholy orgy had 200$ extra to the budget so we hired a burlesque performer to "open" the play time.